Remove myself from the equation

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The vehicle in-front of the taxi I was traveling made a sudden lane change which prompted the driver to stand on his breaks. We were unharmed.

I said “ what a fool”, or something similar.

Ten seconds of silence and the driver said “ When I am on the road, and when I am behind the wheel, I remove myself from the equation”

“What do you mean?”

“My objective is to take my passenger from  A to B. What happens between A to B is my navigation. I should not involve in other’s matters”

“How do you keep that attitude all through out the day?”

“If I don’t do that, I go crazy, so I say a prayer in between rides and renew my peace”

I mentioned what Buddha has said, and he mentioned what Allah has said.

I got down and he was ready for the next ride.

How could you?

I was accused of something I did not. Truly, I had no part of it.

Because I wanted to be completely understood, I asked specific questions to see if what I think is the same what he thinks.

I explained that it was a total misunderstanding. He did not believe a single word I was saying.

I figured there’s no point, and also my blood is now pumping at a rate which is not healthy.

I moved away. Physically yes, but not mentally. Here’s how it went in my head.

“ How could he? Even after all my explanations? Does he think I am a liar? So,  he could only see this incident? And why he cannot see I would not do such a thing “

It is fun to be the right person in my head. But my blood is still on high speed.

I remembered an advise from a book and sat down. Closed my eyes and quietly slid in to meditation for about 10 minutes.

“May I be well, May all beings be well”

Then a smile crossed my troubled face.

“ How could I ? Even after all good things he did ? Do I think he’s useless ? So, I can only see this incident ? And why I cannot see I am capable of useless judgments on him?”

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned

~ Buddha