There are many bad people and bad situations I come across each day.
It’s like I am about to get out of home to go to Colombo, to find out two dogs are barking at me at the gate. What are my options ?
Take cover, ignore the beasts, carry on with my journey
Bark at them, may be bite at them. (How dare you two !)
Most of the time I take option 1. It’s like 90% of the time. But there are 10% of those dogs who will not let me mind my business and don’t let me avoid them. Those are the battles I pick.
Yet remember all dog barking seems to be falling to that 10%. It is not. My biggest challenge is to find that 10%. 90% of the time you get people who don’t trust you, belittle you, say and do back biting. I have found the elixir to let go of them 90%. That elixir is asking my self each time a dog barks ” Is this a battle worthy of my time?”
A new year always gets us in to make resolutions. We want to be better. Our intentions are most of the time inclined towards our progress. Yet, acting on good intentions need perseverance, committed time and will to succeed.
If we do the same thing we did last year, we would get the same results in the new year.
Common complain is that we do not have time. To do something new, you need to give time from something that is not productive right now. Because, adding a new habit needs time taken off from an existing habit. Not all habits we have right now is productive. So when you chose a new habit, chose a habit to let go as well.
It’s like when you have one space garage. If you want to move a new vehicle, you have to remove the existing vehicle. Your 24 hours is your one space garage.
Though many say “time is money”, time in organisations is not actually treated in the way we treat money.
Organisations in meeting rooms waste hundreds or hours in few hours.
I was recently at a meeting with 25 people for 2 hours. That is 50 man hours. What we achieved ? – confusion and boredom. Only one decision was taken. That could have easily achieved through one email.
Many want consensus in decision making. It’s all good. But we simply forget how difficult to get consensus even between 2 people. Try deciding what movie to watch with your spouse, if you think consensus is easy.
Rather, focus on what people want. Ask questions, and be ready to accept answers as they are. Be bold to be surprised and vulnerable. Think “there’s always a better way to do things, even routine activities”. Then act differently. Courage to act after getting that feedback is the loop that keeps you improving.
To get feedback, you don’t need meetings. Feedback can happen in your way to the water dispenser, with the right question. Sometimes humans are relaxed and more responsive when they are standing on their feet. You don’t need to have an answer. But you need to have the mind space to accept the response to your question.